We often judge ourselves negatively. We often forget that mistakes are part of the learning process. When others wrong us, we are quick to forgive and forget, but we are usually harder on ourselves. This makes us our own worst enemy. Today’s post is designed to prevent you from falling into traps of negative feelings. Those thoughts can be damaging, and it hinders progress. With the help of this post, you will stop being hard on yourself. Read till the end and learn to be resilient in facing any challenges.
Below are ways to stop looking down on what you are capable of doing.
Change your mindset
This is the beginning of progress; you must work on your thoughts. When you have positive thoughts, you will be productive at work. It will be easier for you to set goals and achieve them. When faced with obstacles, negative thinking will simply weigh you down. Even if the solution to the difficulties is right in front of you, it will be challenging for you to see it. This is because impossible thoughts cloud your mind. Whatever you are going through, don’t look down on your ability because this moment shall pass. If you always have a negative thought, you need to work on that. A positive mindset will push you to be active and curious.
Honesty remains the best policy at home and work. People will find it easy to trust you when you are honest and straightforward. Honest people pave the way for more incredible things to happen to them. Finally, honesty is the foundation for a profitable relationship.
Put your needs first
If you continuously put yourself second to others, they will look down on you. From this moment, put your needs first. Your needs are as important as other people’s. It will help you balance your needs and what you do for others. Before taking care of others, you need to take care of yourself. You can only give much to others when your inner self is filled with abundance. Putting yourself first does not mean that you are ignoring others. It only means that you are on top of the list before them. It is entirely okay to be the priority. Many people find it hard to do this, and they get disappointed when people don’t do the same for them. Everybody is responsible for their own happiness.
Overthinking can harm your health. When something unpleasant happens, please don’t dwell on it for so long. The time spent on overthinking should be used to seek solutions. Your mental health is essential; protect it.
Give up on an unhealthy lifestyle
You are all you have; you must take care of your body. Your health is the foundation of anything that you plan to achieve in life. With a healthier lifestyle, you will be more creative and more assertive. An unhealthy lifestyle is a way of putting yourself down. It tells the world how much you value yourself. If you are a prey to bad habits, it is never too late to change your ways. It all begins with acceptance. Embrace who you are and look for the means to develop new habits. For instance, some people are addicted to biting their nails. This habit is usually hard to fix because it is practiced daily. Other bad habits include smoking, drinking and high consumption of processed food. These habits open the door to cancer and other health challenges.
The importance of goal setting cannot be overemphasised. Most people look down on themselves and see no reason to set goals. However, without a clear purpose, it will be challenging for you to be focused. At the end of the day, you can measure your progress if you have a goal. Goal setting is the ultimate guide you need to attain your desired height.
Don’t be too hard on yourself
When times are hard, and things are not going well, you need to refocus. During this period, don’t be too hard on yourself. It will be best for you to understand that if you complain every day, your situation will not change. Trace your steps and pick up from where you stop. You need to know that some things happen in life for us to learn a lesson that will be useful in the future. Being hard on yourself will disorganise your thinking, and there will be a reduction in your productivity level. Whatever your present mistake is, they are part of your growth. Be kinder to yourself and evolve into a better version of yourself.
Most people procrastinate because it is the easy way out. Instead of doing the right thing at the right time, they prefer to leave it for later. When something is challenging to do, go ahead and do it. Short-term gratification is the only thing you enjoy from procrastination. It is better to complete all projects at the right time and enjoy long-term benefits. That particular task, if you do it now, there won’t be a need for you to worry about it later.
Avoid playing blame games
You are responsible for yourself. If you blame others for your faults, it makes you blinded. It prevents you from discovering who you really are. There are times that we are not who we believe we are. For you to realise this, it will take you closer to self-discovery. If you are presently stuck in one place, you need to check your life. Be sure that you are not pointing fingers at others for things that you have done wrong. We blame others because it is easy to do. It is not okay to blame others. If you have a contrary opinion, please unlearn that. If you want to go far in life, be responsible for your actions.
Always express your feelings
Some people are fond of having a grip over their emotions. This tends to affect their well-being negatively. Expressing how you feel can be less complicated if you do it right. Once you let go of all the emotions, you will feel genuine happiness.
Surround yourself with only positive people
There are times when it is not easy to get things done. During those periods, your saviour will be those you surround yourself with. They will compliment your effort and how far you have come. They go as far as encouraging you to keep going. In most cases, these people are usually your family and friends. They encourage you to get to the finish line. They contribute to your growth and accomplishments.
Conversely, have you ever thought of what happens if negative people surround you? They will drag you down, and they will negatively affect every area of your life. Please note that who you spend your time with has a significant role to play in who you become.
Set healthy boundaries
It is not always easy, but it is possible. Healthy boundaries are essential to put people in check. When you set a standard, you will enjoy a better relationship in every area of your life because people will treat you better. With this, you will be doing the things that you desire; this will give you genuine happiness. The reason why most people are doing the things they don’t want to do for others is that they have no set limit. When things are not okay to you, learn to say NO. There is no harm in doing that. Stay firm in your response and avoid going back and forth. Take a break from whatever you are doing and set appropriate limits for yourself. It may be difficult at first, but people will come to respect and accept what you want.
If you have a habit of quitting before obtaining results, you need to stop. If you quit now, you might end up regretting your actions. Time is here to stay, but humans will keep transforming from one stage to another. It will be best to make magnificent use of your time now. In years to come, you will appreciate yourself for the effort. If you have a challenging task, keep doing it. With time, it will be easier to do.
Get outside your comfort zone
The best way to gain self-confidence is to step out of your comfort zone. There are specific skills you need to build to live a comfortable life. These skills can only be acquired when you move out of your home and interact with the world. Most people don’t go out because they think all eyes are always on them. However, this is not true because most people are too busy with their life to notice your presence. The whole world is not watching you. If you know this, it will reduce the level of your self-consciousness. If you are nervous, you must understand that you are not alone. The difference between you and others is that, even though they are scared, they still go out. You cannot overcome what you are afraid of when you are not ready to face reality.
If you have ever failed at a task, be persistent enough to try it again. This will give you enough room to experience many things. There will be opportunities to learn new things you are unaware of. If you are struggling to overcome life challenges, you need to keep trying. Not everyone gets successful on the first try. Sometimes, it is necessary to give it a second and third attempt.
Celebrate your little wins
Small victories are still victories. When you achieve anything that is in line with your goals, celebrate yourself. This is one of the best ways to encourage yourself to do better. Many people don’t like to celebrate their small wins. They believe that only a big win can grant them true happiness. Every day or week, think of something small that you have achieved and celebrate yourself. Be proud of who you are becoming because it wasn’t easy for you to get this far. These little celebrations will serve as a mood booster, and in no time, you will keep achieving better results in the things that you do. If you feel that you are yet to achieve anything worthwhile, start keeping track of your small victories and acknowledge them. For example, if you quit drinking, celebrate yourself. Be intentional about every step you take and practice self-love. When you love yourself, you don’t wait for others to pat your back; you do it yourself.
One of the reasons why people look down on themselves is because they don’t have a definition of success. What does success mean to you? Success means different things to people. What your friend refers to as success may be different from your definition. There is nothing wrong with that because we are all on a different journey in life.
Stop looking for perfection
This is why most people are yet to achieve anything in life. Seeking perfection prevents you from achieving your dreams. Stop waiting for things to be perfect before you start. Focus on your strength and utilise your skills. Don’t compare yourself to others because people have different strengths and weaknesses. Understand that you are human, and you cannot be flawless. Please note that perfectionism is a trap that you need to be conscious of.
Finally, you need to understand that you are more than enough. You don’t require anyone’s approval for you to know this. You cannot criticise yourself every day and be happy. The reason why most people accept less than they deserve is that they have no self-worth. They are not confident in themselves. Self-worth is something that only you can give yourself; nobody can give you that. Look within you. You are aware of how much you should be loved and cherished. Therefore, whenever you find yourself in a connection or relationship that does not match the energy you give, feel free to quit. Learn how to enjoy your own company; be a best friend to yourself.
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