You are probably asking yourself, “Is there a better way I can take control of my life”? We all ask ourselves this question at different stages of our life when we don’t feel good. We all want to feel confident while being in control over how we respond to life and its circumstances. When nothing is going right, we become confused and wonder what we are doing wrong. If you also find yourself in the same scenario, you are reading the right piece.
Here are some tips to help you take control of your life. It will also help you to discover what you want. In life, you cannot control everything that happens to you, but you do have control over yourself and how you want to react to them. As a thank you “reward” for your time and energy, read till the end and enjoy a bonus point.
Know your core values
Often, people are confused about what success really means to them. You need to establish a core value and belief for yourself. Don’t chase after people’s definition of a successful life. Know your core values and shape your definition of success from it. What is your fundamental belief? Every individual has principles that guide them. These principles will guide how you behave and respond to things. Your core values may include honesty, courage, perseverance, commitment, efficiency and lots more. You need to sit down, meditate and choose what is suitable for you. However, you need to remember that your core values will impact how you pursue and achieve life goals.
Learn to say “no”
We all want to have a good relationship with others at work, and in other vital places we find ourselves. However, this should not control who you are to the extent of saying “YES” when you mean to say “NO”. When you say yes instead of no, you will find yourself hiding in a corner and regretting your decision. The reason you are saying yes instead of no is because you fail to prioritise yourself. You can still maintain your relationship with others without agreeing to all they ask you to do. You can politely say no when you cannot do them the favour they ask of you. There is absolutely nothing wrong with saying no when things are not okay with you. It helps you to establish healthy boundaries at home and work. People will not take advantage of you, and they will see you as a more honest person to relate with.
Discover your support system
We all have different support systems; you need to discover what yours looks like. What do I mean by this? In life, we are motivated by different things. If you want to have control over your life, find your source of motivation. A time will come when you feel like giving up; your motivation will be the drive that you need to move forward. Everyone is unique in their way and we do things differently to get to where we want to be. Ask yourself, “what motivates me when I am down”? It could be the desire to win. Some people work hard because they don’t like to fail. For some, they are motivated by their family or kids. Whatever yours is, it is entirely okay.
Accept yourself as you are
Before you take control of your life, you need to accept how you are presently. This does not mean that you are settling for less. When you accept yourself, you will understand that you are a work in progress, just like everyone out there. No one is living a perfect life, but the best among others have successfully learnt that their past is part of them. Nevertheless, they are not being defined by it. Whatever mistakes you make in the past, admit them and move on. Without those mistakes, there will be nothing to be called “lessons”. Don’t stress yourself trying to be someone else because, in the end, you will lose control over who you are meant to be.
Think outside the box when you are stuck
When you want to take control of your life, you need to learn how to think broadly. A mental block occurs to everyone, and it is uncontrollable. Don’t allow yourself to be tense just because you cannot remember something. The best way to handle this is by “exploration”. Allow yourself to explore new ideas and opportunities. This helps your mental health, giving you a new perspective. You can find the solution to a problem when you take a break and move to a new environment. As an employee, you are most likely to face mental blocks when given a project to work on. If you have tried your best and nothing is forthcoming, the next thing to do is try talking to a colleague or taking a break. This will help you return to work with a reset mind, and you will be able to come up with a better solution.
Learn to forgive yourself
Some people are constantly feeling guilty and reducing their self-worth. They end up saying negative words to themselves and demeaning their value. We often speak about how it is essential to forgive others when they wrong us. However, it is more necessary for us to forgive ourselves. Whatever you did in the past that you are not proud of, forgive yourself and take charge of your life. You should be a bit kinder by speaking only positive words to yourself. Whatever happened has happened you cannot go back to the past. It will be better for you to understand that all you have got is “the present”, you need to make better use of it.
Your comfort zone is a danger zone
No one likes to go through stress. However, we have to do uncomfortable things for us to become comfortable. In order to learn new things or master a new skill, be ready to leave your comfort zone. To take a step towards the actualisation of your dream, you need to go out there into the world and do what successful people are doing. Once you are ready to step out of your comfort zone, you will begin to take charge of your life, and you will be more confident.
Furthermore, you need to engage in many activities and meet new people to understand life. Most people are not where they want to be because they refuse to step out and get things done. You cannot discover your true self if you are confined in a box. Don’t be afraid of doing things that scare you. We are all humans, and we need to grow. What is the essence of life if we are not growing and discovering new opportunities? This can only be achieved outside your comfort zone.
Change the way you think
This is the first step to transforming one’s life. Those who are living a better life than yours are probably having better thoughts. The quality of your life is a reflection of what you think constantly. As humans, we manifest what we have in our minds. Start by living a life guided by positive affirmation. What you say to yourself is powerful because they go a long way to shape who you become. Avoid saying “I can’t make it”, and say things like “I am going to be successful”. With time, your brain will master those words, and when you are faced with challenges, such positive words will help you take charge of your situation.
Appreciate what you have
One of the best ways to control your life is by appreciating things you have. You need to appreciate those things for you to enjoy them. It will be best for you to appreciate yourself as well. Wherever you are in the journey of life, value yourself. It does not mean you are settling for less. There is nothing wrong with the amount of success that you have presently. Be grateful for how far you have come and make plans to go higher.
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Be happy irrespective of the circumstance
People often make the mistake of tying their happiness to future expectations. Do not mistake your happiness for what you will accomplish tomorrow or in the near future. Don’t take your happiness for granted. You can be happy every day. There is nothing wrong with that; it is all a decision. Think of those who are yet to be half successful as you are. When you are happy and grateful, you open doors for more blessings.
No one can take better charge of your life than YOU. When life seems confusing and you are lost, use this content as a guide to recovering from the situation. Finally, taking control of one’s life takes time, especially if you are just starting to do so. Be committed and take things slowly; regaining control is a step-by-step process.
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